Thursday, May 22, 2014

My simple existence

 I recently have come to know a woman who has led a vastly different life than my own and has a wildly different perspective than the one I have. She was born and raised in a major city by a family of wealth. Married into money and continued to live the high life. The standard two children, boarding schools, summer camps, summer home on the coast, the best of everything. She is currently living differently following her divorce. She is the only friend in her circle who holds down a job (she works multiple part time jobs to supplement her generous alimony), no longer has the summer home, lives rent free in a 'family' home for which she only pays utilities, drives a late model SUV, and claims to no longer be able afford the latest fashions etc. And yet she is still seeing life from the other side of the fence, recommending boarding schools and camps for children, talking about vacation resorts, and fancy trips. The very things I think of as high priced she sees as necessities (for example grocery shopping...she regularly shops the most expensive markets in the city and says what a bargain they are). She is a very nice person who appears content with her new life and yet  I find myself feeling a bit sorry for her. She sees one of her children only at the Christmas holiday and the other one for about two weeks a year. She has friends but doesn't spend much time with any of them. And she seems totally bewildered by someone (myself) who is enthusiastic about growing my own vegetables, reading, crocheting and spending time with family and friends. I get the feeling she feels just a bit sorry for me. LOL. But despite my financial struggles I am so blessed in all the things money cannot buy and I am happy in my simple little life.  Two sides of the fence with two different views and yet we feel the same about each other.

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  1. Nancy -- you and I are such kindred spirits. I have had similar encounters with people who are seemingly from another planet.

    Today I enjoyed a walk to our small town library, read magazines in free ac, picked up a book I got on interlibrary loan (instead of paying $35.95 for a new release book I was interested in reading), walked back home to putz in my veggie garden and then spent the afternoon reading the above mentioned book. I ramble on about all that because a simple life is all I really ever wanted -- all the simple pleasures -- faith and family first and lots of simple experiences and the older I get, less and less STUFF!!

    We are both very blessed women.

    Wishing you the best my old friend!!

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    1. Gail Your day sounds like heaven to me. I am so looking forward to summer vacation. The $$ may be short but it will be long on doing the things I love. And my life is richer with friends like you.

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